Are you a victim of conflicts inside of you or out in your daily life?
Do you wanna ruin your life and live with conflict tensions and feelings of threat?
Are others hurting you emotionally with their ignorance, stupidity, aggression or oppressive behaviour? Or do you love the release of aggression and splashing the truth into somebody's face, but feeling guilty afterwards? Or are you struggling with inner conflicts, you feel pain, hurt, selfcriticism, aggression, hatred, fighting inside yourself or against oppressive people outside? You are trying to be understood but people are too rude, selfish, ignorant, or too much caring and trying to change you? Or you know what's the best for your family, partners, or employees at work, but you often face conflicts and stupidity of others?
Do you feel scared and paralyzed from conflicts and need support and even to prevent them?
These are just a few examples of how people are usually meeting conflicts. We are usually getting hurt and losing trust, love, care, fulfillment, friendship etc.
Nobody taught us how to deal with conflicts constructively so that they could bring us amazing life and healthy energy together with creativity and solutions. Sounds like a fairytale?
We are working with conflicts worldwide, with internal conflicts of individuals, conflicts between couples, families, on groups, workplaces between the boss and the employees, between the colleagues, in organizations and even between the whole countries against each other. We have had positive results and have achieved sustainable solutions with all in conflict involved parties. Important thing is that we are not so much for compromise, because with compromise, no one is really satisfied, which makes it mostly a temporary solution. Instead of compromise we're facilitating deep understanding of each side in conflict so that each side feels really understood and begins to be ready to listen and even feel into the other side. The other side feels the same and the constructive connection begins. We're facilitating understanding on all sides equally and through understanding many misunderstandings, false assumptions and unconscious projections are disappearing and the truth brings people together. Hatred is transformed to respect, understanding, even in support, friendships, love, relationships.
JAN DURIS SYSTEM is a facilitation based on mainly these four sources:
1. Worldwork – a part of Arnold Mindell's Processwork……link. The only facilitation methodology which includes everything. Using Worldwork we are following the wisdom of the process manifesting itself through all parts, conditions, persons, emotions, states of consciousness, dreams, body symptoms and signals, ideologies, worldviews, politics, rank and privilege issues, gender issues, spirituality and much more. It is the same process which we follow through JAN DURIS SYSTEM……..link ; process as an energy flow creating us and everything. Worldwork deals with everything, with the whole system and also with the other fields influencing the system. Each topic is polarizing the people into the roles. As facilitators we are trying to discover the basic polarization and facilitate the roles which are behind it.
For example on one side we can have the powerful role of the boss and on another employees in oppressed victim roles. During facilitation, the boss will try to keep his authority, but his body language would show incongruent signals. While following them we would find out how he himself feels also like a victim, cause when the employees are not working effectively enough the company loses money and his own bosses are threatening him with degradation. Then the roles in the field are changing and the employees begin to understand their own responsibility and oppressive behaviour and the boss is giving up his oppressive authority. With our facilitation they are connecting and building a team together. And afterwards we are facilitating the relationship of the new team towards the higher bosses in the larger system.
By doing Worldwork we are following where the energy wanna flow, we are learning from the nature which is manifesting through the field and organizing relationships and dynamics of the roles. We are following all said and unsaid; the signals of body language often knows better how to solve the problem than our minds. The energy flow is showing the way. We're trying to represent Ghost roles of those who are not participating, or roles of systems like money, capitalism, government, garbage etc and facilitating their relationships with other parts of the system. Worldwork is offering tools to work on everything occuring in the whole system, to dig out the truth, to find the organizing pattern behind the problem and to refind the underlying relationships, wholeness, between all parts. How is each part a part of the flow of the whole system and how they can help each other. Worldwork is mostly about very complex understanding, it's very deep and builds relationships.
2. Dynamic Facilitation - Jim Rough's on solution oriented and very fast methodology supporting people's equality. The facilitation works with four flipcharts: questions, solutions, critics, data. The facilitator is listening to everybody and writes everything on those flipcharts so everybody sees what everybody said and everybody feels supported and understood. When people see what is written they're trying to find solution, coming up with better concrete questions, more constructive criticism and data, finding out the solutions very fast.
3. Encounter Groups - Carl Roger's, one of the most important psychotherapists in the human history, found out that in every living organism there is a living force trying to develop itself, actualizing organism's full potential and to overgrow all problems. Through unacceptance of the society, people are losing contact with this Actualization tendency. Then the pathology is appearing, people are losing the sense of what is right and wrong for their potential, they are trying to hide themselves wearing social masks, because the masks should bring them more social acceptance but with them they are beginning to consider them as their real self. So they are losing themselves totally. Rogers found out three basic and necessary conditions for therapeutic change. When a facilitator uses extremely deep empathy towards the client, facilitator also accepts the client unconditionally, because he will understand why client did and experienced things in his specific way. Communicating this deep understanding will open the client and then also the facilitator opens and becomes congruent/self empathetic. Empathy, unconditional acceptance and congruency/authenticity, are applied for the whole groups too. The basic and necessary conditions are giving to each participant the environment where they can grow, reaching their potential, throwing away all their masks, cry and scream out everything. Experiencing of this is a deeply sensitive, as humanly as possible, people are appreciated for their uniqueness. It's very emotional, touching and people are leaving the groups stronger, authentic, congruent, to live themselves fully.
4. Jan Duris' discoveries and his integration of previous methods – Worldwork can be also applied so deep into each human, it's much more open to all expressions, movements, art etc, but Encounter groups are much more sensitively personal however not on solution oriented at all. Jan saw how Worldwork lacks more of “on the solution orientation” too, which was slowing the process of facilitation. Although the understanding of all parts was increasing and relationships were built, often there was no time left to find out the solutions. So he modified Dynamic Facilitation on the amazing dept of Worldwork and brought more Dynamic Facilitation structure into it. Into this integration he dropped the deepest empathy and authenticity from Rogerian approach, because those previous approaches are sadly not made so much for those, who are introverted, sensitive, silent and shy to express. In his past Jan was one of such introverts. In many facilitations around the world he saw a lot of missed wisdom, ideas and creativity for the groups and this happened just because the group facilitation methods lacked big support for socially anxious, introverted and shy people.
Jan's history and discoveries about conflicts
Jan grew up in a tyrannizing and extremely oppressive conditions. With a sensitive soul he was victim of conflict, but with a heart of a warrior he wanted truth and justice. He was extremely impulsive and needed to find out how to solve conflicts without destroying everything with his aggression (desperate calling for help). Later his meditations gave him understanding of the parts involved in conflict, they gave him peace and detached metaposition of his consciousness. So he was able to be fully above parts involved in conflict and also to keep his creative mind, to feel into the mids of the burning situations and to solve his own aggressive impulses too.
Since 2004 his psychotherapeutic trainings gave him tools how to facilitate conflicts.
Now he perceives conflicts not only as painful, destructive experiences, but also as amazing opportunities to break through into better lives, better health, living your potential much more fully. Each conflicted side he perceives as a piece of the cake of the truth. Everybody is right from their inner understanding and everybody is bringing a part of the necessary truth to the system. People from each conflicted side represent in their emotions and actions the qualities which the other side needs. The Universe is trying to bring its diversity together but people are very stuck in their individual identities without seeing the whole picture. Conflict is a process, a part of creation and evolution of the Universe. When different parts are crashing on each other, something new is created. Each part is missing the wholeness and Universe is crashing them together to make contact between them. People are mostly not ready to integrate the other part, not even to understand. Instead of that they need to fight, which brings them in contact with their individuality and difference. The diversity is created. We're supporting diversity too. Our goal is not only peace but also following the wise process of creation. By many crash ons, when nothing else helps, people are beginning to be more open to understand the other side. Switching roles is happening. Then they are more ready for exploring the other part and the unity is starting to appear.
What we're offering:
1. Facilitation – you would hire us and we will facilitate and transform the conflicts into amazing complex understanding, building relationships and a team where everybody will feel like in a new amazing family full of support, understanding, power, warmth, and building together sustainable solutions.
2. Trainings – we will train you how to facilitate your conflicts by yourself. We will adapt the training especially for your needs. We can train individuals, couples, family, the whole teams like CEOs, managers or workers.
3. Mixture of both plus our other services, everything adapted for your needs.
What are the benefits of our facilitation:
- Reducing the negative impact of conflicts
- Wisdom arising from understanding, self- knowledge, understanding of others and understanding of the field organizing the roles and the people.
- Health and reduction of body symptoms
- Developing new constructive relationships
- Business development and cashflow
- Personal, couples, family and organizational development
- Sustainable solutions
- Boost of creativity, potential, connection with the flow, more freedom for expressing it and living it
- Learning useful tools for life, which you will teach your children, family and friends
- Experience which makes you stronger and gives you higher social value and attractivity in the eyes of others
How we are working
Jan Duris is working mostly alone with individuals, relationships, couples, family, small groups and small businesses. Maximum 3-4 people can be facilitated also online. But bigger group facilitation we're doing personally, sometimes in a team of two or three cofacilitators which are Jan Duris and his advanced students. In more serious cases Jan is creating the team from his on this particular topic most specialized colleagues worldwide.
Contact us and lets arrange our first free meeting. During or after it we create our special offer for you with special prices for you. We would build special training exactly for your needs.
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